“Haters gonna Hate”
“To all my Haters out there, just wait, I have a lot more for you to hate on.”
“Haters make me famous
“Don’t hate, Appreciate”
“Make your supporters proud and your haters jealous.”
“Prove them wrong.”
..and the list goes on.
Let me ask you this. Why do we focus so much of our attention on people who hate us? As we all know, a hater is someone that, more times than not, just dislikes you because they envy something you have, can do or just the fact that you are unafraid to be yourself. So haters should then make us happy, right?
Why do we give anyone but ourselves the power to control how we feel? These and so many questions are things that I think about all the time.
We all have those people in our lives that can be considered our “haters.” Let’s face it, we are all so uniquely different that chances are not everyone you run into will be your biggest fan. The important thing to remember is that their opinion means NOTHING! Who are these haters anyway? Many times we don’t even know that someone is “hating” or having an issue with us until we hear it through the grapevine. Information spreads quickly and almost always the person you told not to say anything to, has also said the same thing to their best friend after they fill them in on the “dirt.” So we know that there will always be people that say things that aren’t very nice or maybe just don’t understand what it is your intentions are. Either way, shame on them for assuming things about you and forming an opinion based on partial or no actual factual information.
Three have been times in my life that I wanted to post a photo highlighting the fact that my haters don’t matter, but then I stopped and thought about it. If I were to post about how their actions were irrelevant then I would be contradicting myself by taking my time to even point that out. Instead I chose to leave it along. So what is the difference in posting a photo on Facebook and writing about it in a blog? Well, this is purely observation and my thought on the matter. I do not have haters in mind that I am angrily thinking about as I type this. It is just something that crosses my mind when I see the many different photos online that have been created to highlight something that should be ignored. What you are doing in your life is obviously working for you and making you happy. People don’t hate on someone who is not doing something that they envy. Even though it is hard when you hear something bad someone has said about you and you just want to prove them wrong, stop and think about how much more satisfying it is to your haters to see that they can effect your emotions and ruin your day rather than if you were to completely ignore it. Make the choice to be in control of your emotions and do not allow others to feel like they can control them for you .The one thing that haters hate the most is to see other people happy. Your best defense against haters is to take back the power and show them that their actions do not influence you feelings by simply doing nothing at all. Even more than happiness, haters hate kindness. Have you ever heard the saying,” Kill them with Kindness?” When someone is so invested in making you feel horrible, the worst thing you can do is be kind to them. Now, I am not saying to fake kindness and turn kindness into a sarcastic hateful thing. I really, truly just mean, be nice. Take a step back and think about it. They must have something that is or has hurt them in their life to be taking their issues out on you. Show them a genuine smile, give them a real compliment and you never know, maybe they will just stop and think about how being mean to someone is not the way to make themselves feel better.
On the flip side, how many of us are guilty of saying something mean about someone else? All of us at one time or another have been hateful to someone else. It can be as simple as saying something negative about a post or a picture that someone put online or talking behind someone’s back. It is human nature, although that does not make it an excuse. It really just goes to show that it is a mean cycle that we all have been caught up in.
Next time you are in a situation where you or the people around you are going to be cutting someone else down. Stop and think about it. Do you want to be their hater? Are they really doing something that is any of your business or that you are entitled to an opinion about? Let’s be aware of how our actions can affect other people. Let’s try to invest in building people up rather than cutting them down to make ourselves feel better. Give someone a compliment. Like someone’s photo or status. Be an active participant in making life better for the people around you. I think we can all agree that through these practices, not only can we improve our own lives but also those around us!